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Photographic evidence of Robert Downey Jr’s sobriety journey

How he looks now and how he has changed since getting sober!


How he looks now and how he has changed physically since getting sober! Wowster!




A reader who calls herself Jennyfromtheblock commented about Downey’s recent Rolling Stone cover shoot:

I think the lighting on him makes him look good — good bones. This is also why his mug shot is so hideous, not to mention the sadness in his eyes.

There are three mug shots that always go up when there’s news of Downey: the Orange shot, the Black shot, and the Green shot.

I paint portraits, so I look at faces closely… And this face tells a great story…

In the orange shot (taken while serving time for a drug conviction) he looks cavalier: I’ve got this, I’m cool, it’s all gonna go away. It’s a joke, and he goes right back out.

The black shot (taken November 2000 when he was busted in Palm Springs for holding cocaine and valium) shows a ghost of determined denial in his face, a little wrinkle between the eyebrows that says (I imagine, from having been somewhere like this), Fuck these assholes; just fuck every last one. He was working toward the end of his first season on Ally McBeal; the actor who brought Charlie Chaplin brilliantly to life on the big screen hated playing to TV audiences, despite the fact (or maybe because of the fact) that his appearance on the show had dragged the show from its coffin back into the sunlight. People loved him in a show he didn’t give a shite about. He told The Guardian:

It was my lowest point in terms of addictions. At that stage, I didn’t give a fuck whether I ever acted again.

Also, he looks sick. Circles have appeared under his eyes; he’s pale, gaunt, with lines carved around his mouth. Anger and fear are eating away at his body.

The green shot was taken in April 2001, after cops found him walking barefoot in southwest L.A. Which is when the Ally McBeal producers fired his ass from the show. Which is probably what he wanted anyhow but didn’t have the clarity to go and get.

When you’re Not Sober, you don’t know what the hell you want. You know extremely well what everyone else thinks you ought to want: Lucrative TV role; good ratings; easy job after having been on the skids for a while; DON’T QUIT. Even if you hate what you’re doing.

In this shot, he seems to have given up. In 2008 he told Oprah about this time:

I finally said, ‘You know what? I don’t think I can continue doing this.’ And I reached out for help, and I ran with it…. You can reach out for help in kind of a half-assed way, and you’ll get it, and you won’t take advantage of it. It’s not that difficult to overcome these seemingly ghastly problems…what’s hard is to decide to actually do it.

Sobriety changes everything about a person. One of the most interesting pieces of evidence that a person is getting better is the evidence in his body—particularly his face.

The differences are pretty easy to see. And mug shots are photographed more unforgivingly than magazine shoots, but Downey has a very fine bone structure, which has retained its handsomeness despite the abuse it has endured. Most people lose fullness in their cheeks and lips as they age, but Downey seems to have been fortunate. I agree with Jennyfromtheblock:

Redemption is a lovely thing; Robert Downey, Jr. is just a better actor, the more he just grows up.

6 thoughts on “Sober life : Robert Downey Jr.’s face”

  1. Would love to be on your blogroll… and will return the favor.

    The great thing is how far he’s come from the mug shots… cheers G

  2. A good and interesting read — thanks! RDJ’s quote here parallels another battle I and many other people face: my weight. I’m fond of the expression that just about any diet will work as long as you follow it. The core problem is in finding a program you can stick with for LIFE. Being overweight is in many ways no different at all than having a drug problem, except the symptoms of fat are more obvious. It starts off small — an extra dessert here, a bag of chips there — then it grows until, once a person has become good and truly fat, reversing the process becomes a nearly insurmountable task. Very interesting — thanks much!

  3. i love this exploration into his mug shots. i’ve always loved rdj.
    on a personal note – my no. 2 son works for rl in malibu and rdj is a client of his and he says he is the real deal, generous, awesome. wears a ton of crystals. i love it.


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Michelle Mone (Ultimo) now sober

Michelle Mone on her marriage split: ‘I was drinking almost two bottles of wine a night’

SHE’S been very open about her devastating marriage split back in 2012 but Michelle Mone spoke today about drinking two bottles of wine a night.

Published: 15:47, Wed, March 4, 2015

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Michelle Mone has revealed she was heavily drinking after her marriage split

The Ultimo CEO, 43, has revealed she turned to the bottle during when her marriage to Michael Mone broke down.

Speaking to BBC Breakfast, she said: “It opened up a lot of wounds. I was drinking almost two bottles of wine a night.

“It was a problem.”

She added: “I had to cleanse myself of all that bitterness. I have stopped drinking and turned my life around.”

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The stunning blonde has been very open about her feelings after the marriage

Michelle Mone reveals heavy drinking after marriage splitWENN

Michelle spoke to the BBC this morning about her new autobiography

Michelle has been quite open with the details of her marriage breakdown in her new book My Fight To The Top.

The mother-of-three revealed she trashed ex-husband Michael’s clothes, scratched his £120,000 Porsche Panamera and dosed him with laxatives.

Michelle suspected Micheal was having an affair with Ultimo designer Samantha Bunn, 34. Michael and Samantha are now engaged to be married.

Speaking about her life, Michelle added: “I thought material things like cars and houses make you happy but the truth is that you have to be happy on the inside.”

The star tweeted her fans after appearing on the show this morning, thanking them for all their support after her revelation.

She said: “WOW thanks so much everyone for your amazing comments re @BBCBreakfast Bye #Manchester now off to #Dublin”

Michelle divorced her husband in January 2013 and has since sold 80 per cent of her share in Ultimo.

Bradley Cooper – sober and gorgeous

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Bradley Cooper and Suki Waterhouse are giving up partying and alcohol together in order to fight the addiction that almost consumed the actor’s life.

In a related report by The Inquisitr, Cooper and Waterhouse officially came out as a couple at the SAG Awards. The couple has been dating since last year and even though the media has reported supposed problems in their relationship they are apparently very happy together.

At one point in his life Bradley Cooper was contemplating suicide while working the set of Alias around 10 years ago:

“If I continued it, I was really going to sabotage my whole life…. I would only work three days a week. And then for the second season, I got even more sidelined. I was like, ‘Ugh.’ And then next thing you know, I was like, “I want to f***ing kill myself.”

Ironically enough, after his recovery from drugs and alcohol abuse he became renowned as Phil Wenneck in The Hangover movie series. But just because Cooper’s characters are getting wasted doesn’t mean he’s imbibing himself. While his new girlfriend Suki has a reputation for wild partying to rival that movie, Waterhouse is apparently willing to give up wild nights for love according sources close to the 22-year-old:

“Suki isn’t drinking any more. She hasn’t made it into a massive issue, but she’s spending a lot more time with Bradley and his family and drinking isn’t something that goes on. She and Bradley are pretty serious and they’re enjoying being together. Drinking isn’t something that comes up.”



When Did Alcohol Become a Part of Everything We Do?

First in the Huff Post Healthy Voices

Let me preface this with saying: most of everything I did revolved around alcohol for years. I didn’t like being in social situations where alcohol wasn’t available. I would drink prior to going out. I would sneak alcohol if it wasn’t going to be served where I was going. I always made sure my bar was fully stocked at home. I drank on holidays and family functions. The only reason I ever agreed to go to Chuck E. Cheese with my nephews is because they serve alcohol. Vacations? Forget it. I drank from the time I got there to the time I left. I would have been the mother that had a coffee cup of wine at her kid’s ballgames. I would have been the mom to have the girls over for wine before a PTA meeting. I would have served alcohol at my kids birthday parties for the adults. I would have been the mom to drink a bottle or two at home every night just because. I could turn anything into a reason to drink. But I am also an alcoholic.

I see pregnant women drinking out in public often. I’ve been invited to several Huggies & Chuggies themed baby showers, where you provide the diapers and they provide the beer. Alcohol is served at most all of the major children’s music and theater shows. I know because I drank at Phineas & Ferb and Ringling Brothers. I see friend’s Facebook pictures of their kid’s birthday parties where all the adults have wine or beer in their hands. I know parents who get drunk at home in front of their kids almost every night or every weekend.

So, when did this become accepted as the norm? It certainly wasn’t like this when I was growing up.

Baby showers consisted of peanuts, tea sandwiches, cake squares and sherbet punch. I don’t recall alcohol being available at the circus. Is that really necessary? It’s two hours and you are most likely with children. Birthday parties were about the kids… not the adults. Doesn’t seem safe to have a house full of kids with a bunch of drunk adults. But, I guess I get it. A couple years ago, I drank at all of these events and would have been annoyed if it wasn’t available. But, then again, I am also an alcoholic.

I am thankful that I grew up with a Mom and Dad who didn’t drink. I can’t ever recall seeing my parents drink as a kid. I’ve never seen my Mom drunk, ever. I have only seen my Dad drunk once and I was 23 years old. My Mom would occasionally have a glass of red wine once my siblings and I were all adults. And by occasionally, I mean like one glass a week, if that. She would buy those mini bottles of wine that came in a four pack and would open one and drink half. She never bought a regular-size bottle because there is no way she would have drunk it before it went bad! As an alcoholic, that is something I can’t wrap my head around.

When my brother, who died from an overdose in April 2012, was trying to stop drinking in June 2011, my Mom stopped as a way of supporting him. She never made a big deal about it, but I noticed she stopped drinking all together. I told her recently that it didn’t bother me if she ever wanted to have a glass of wine or something and she said, “No, I don’t want any part of it. Alcohol has done a lot of damage to our family.” Alcoholism took the life of her son and then there’s me, the alcoholic. So, I can only imagine how she must view alcohol and what it has the ability to do to people… especially her family.

When I got back from rehab, I wasn’t sure how I would be in social situations. I wasn’t sure I would know how to act in a social situation without alcohol. I was so used to having alcohol as a social lubricant to get me through anything that I didn’t want to do or that caused me anxiety. I wasn’t sure how I was ever going to do a lot of things sober. For instance, my family decided that they all wanted to go to the Dixie Stampede at Christmas. Shoot me now, I thought! This sounded like an absolute nightmare. I couldn’t have imagined going to that sober! Old Allison would have had to be tanked to sit through it. But what I realized sitting there watching horses relieve themselves in front of us while eating a whole rotisserie chicken with my hands and drinking sweet tea from a plastic boot is — that these are moments with my family, especially my five young nephews — that I want to be present for. I mean, who would want to forget all that?! My nephews had the time of their lives. And these are the times that they will always remember about their childhood. Doing things sober isn’t going to kill me. And I have come to realize, I actually enjoy things I used to hate.

I missed out on so much from drinking. Even though I was physically there, I was never really present for a lot. And I am not even referring to the times I would black out or pass out and miss or not remember events completely. I am just talking about all the birthday parties, family dinners, vacations, holidays, or just random nights doing nothing with my family… all the times I drank just because I didn’t know how to be in situations without drinking.

It sometimes amazes me that I enjoy life so much sober. I don’t have anything against people drinking. I just think it’s sad that we as a society make alcohol a part of everything we do. I think some things should remain innocent and wholesome. Time with kids is one of them. I am thankful that my nephews have parents who rarely drink and are positive role models for them. I am thankful that probably only one of my nephews will remember his Aunt Al’s days of drinking. I pray every night that none of my nephews have the gene that is linked to addiction. But one thing I know for sure is that they don’t see any importance placed on alcohol from the most influential adults in their lives. Unfortunately, that isn’t the case in a lot of families and it wouldn’t have been the case in mine if I had not chosen recovery.


Wonderful Kristen Johnston – sober and happy



Kristen Johnston, the towering comedic actress best known for her role on “3rd Rock from the Sun,” may bring the laughs on TV Land’s “The Exes,” but in reality, the star has been battling some serious personal issues.

Johnston recently penned a powerfully honest memoir, “Guts,” in which she writes about her miserable school years, her rise to fame and, most stunningly, her addictions to drugs and alcohol.

The actress, 44, who has been working to establish the first sober high school in New York City, chatted with The Huffington Post about her new book and overcoming her serious struggles.

In “Guts,” you write about suffering a terrifying medical scare. What happened?
Five years ago I ended up — due to naughty living — with a gastric ulcer that I wasn’t aware of and it burst and I became septic, meaning I filled up with stomach stuff in my armpit. I was in the hospital for two months. That’s the short story; for the rest you’ve got to buy the book. Basically, the event is used to help tell my story of addiction.

The pain sounds as if it was unbearable.
It was. I’ve never even experienced pain like that. Trying to describe it in words was so challenging because I also wanted it to be me, which is funny. I have a lot of self-deprecation; I’m not a pitying person. It was also a very lonely process to write about that because it was so dark.

You’re an alcoholic.
Yes, and a drug addict.

How long was your addiction really serious?
I would say it was bad for six years, but really bad the last three. The thing that’s so complicated about addiction, which I hope I addressed [in the book], is that the nightmare is your friends and loved ones are behind door number one and your drug is behind door number two, and you will always choose door two. It’s not personal; it’s because you’re in prison. You can’t help it.

It was a slow, slow process. I call [my addiction] “Mr. Morphine” because it was like a toxic relationship. We dated for a week and then we broke up for six months, and then we’d date for another two weeks. It was like that until basically six years ago, when I was like, “Oh, alright, move in.”

There are so many different types of addiction and people kind of separate themselves from us; I’m not that different from you. I mean, I do have different brain chemistry than you. But I believe that if the right circumstances happen, like your child, God forbid, is harmed and you happen to get a migraine at the exact same time…

You’d drink yourself silly every night.
Exactly. Anyone has the capability for it. But I do believe there are some people that have a greater predilection. I’m the strongest person I’ve ever met; I can will things with my mind, or at least I thought so, and so the fact that I couldn’t navigate this on my own was shocking to me. I’d done everything myself. So I started to believe I could actually control things and the bottom line is I can’t.

That’s hard, that surrender.
I had a lot of shame, and that’s why it took me so long to get help because I did know for a good long while that I was in trouble, but I just kept thinking I would grow out of it. When I didn’t, that’s when I realized, “Oh my God, I’m really really an addict.” I was also embarrassed at the concept of me being an actual cliché — “Oh great, another actress on painkillers.”

The tabloids went nuts when you lost a lot of weight.
I was sober then. That was a really dark time. I was finally on the right path and yes, I did look terrible, I agree. However, I did give a statement where I told the truth. I said that due to late night living, I had a gastric ulcer that burst. I was in hospital for two months, had a large portion of my stomach removed, blah, blah, blah. Ever since then I’ve been sober and yes, I’m struggling to put on weight, but they would not print any of that.

I couldn’t believe the level of malice directed toward me. I thought once, “God, what if I was anorexic? This would be the worst.” Everybody knows anorexia is a disease that people struggle with and the fact that people were so cruel was shocking to me.

You write that you had a tough time when you were in school, something that many people can relate to.
I really was a loser; I’m not exaggerating. It wasn’t just that my height (6 feet) was wrong. I was very loud. I always said the wrong thing at the exact worst moment. They called me “learning disabled” even though I wasn’t. I had to wear corrective shoes, and everything I wore was totally ill-fitting only because my mother could not keep up with my height. Now I look at pictures of me then and I go, “What a cutie,” but back then I felt like a giant ugly turd. But you know what? It gave me everything I am.

You don’t want to peak in high school. That’s the whole thing and you just don’t know it then. I work with young high school girls at self-esteem workshops, and they are so unhappy. They’re cyberbullying each other; they just torture each other and the bottom line is you don’t want to be a rock star when you’re 12. You want to be a rock star when you’re 23 or whatever, just not 12.

sobriety quotes from celebrities


Sobriety Quotes from Celebrities

Whether you are a celebrity or an ordinary person, drug abuse or alcoholism can affect you. There are many people who have abused drugs or alcohol in the past, and their sobriety quotes can be extremely important to those who are undergoing rehab.

  • Alcohol Abuse

    “The lesson is that you can still make mistakes and be forgiven.”

    Robert Downey Jr. is a well-known actor whose movies such as Iron Man, Tropic Thunder and Sherlock Holmes have graced many DVD collections. Despite his initial successes with Less Than Zero and Natural Born Killers, he started to take and abuse drugs. Between 1996 and 2002, he was regularly arrested on drugs charges. When asked about his addiction, he said, “It’s like I have a loaded gun in my mouth, and I like the taste of metal.” However, he also acknowledged that he has found success after his addiction through the support of his family, friends and colleagues in the film industry. He said, “The lesson is that you can still make mistakes and be forgiven.”

  • Ringo Starrwas the drummer of the phenomenally successful
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    “That’s all drugs and alcohol do; they cut off your emotions in the end.”

    Beatles, and for a period of around 20 years, he took a wide variety of drugs and drank a lot of alcohol. “I didn’t work or do anything,” he once said. “I wouldn’t go out, because you’d have to be in the car for 40 minutes without a drink.” However, he realized that, “That’s all drugs and alcohol do; they cut off your emotions in the end.” As a result, he started getting sober, and he now enjoys a successful career where he tours with his band.

  • Alcohol Abuse

    “Getting sober was one of the three pivotal events in my life…”

    Gary Oldman is an acclaimed British actor who rose to fame as part of the so-called Brit Pack, a group consisting of British actors who came to prominence during the 1980s. However, the death of his father lead to him drinking too much, and he found himself addicted. He wrote, “I drank for about 25 years getting over the loss of my father, and I took the anger out on myself. I did a good job at beating myself up sometimes.” However, Gary realized he had a serious problem, and he took the step of joining Alcoholics Anonymous and getting sober. He later said, “Getting sober was one of the three pivotal events in my life, along with becoming an actor and having a child. Of the three, finding my sobriety was the hardest thing.” However, he is now a teetotaler, and his recent films have been box office hits.

  • Rob Lowe is another actor who ended up as an alcoholic.
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    “Sobriety was the greatest gift I ever gave myself.”

    His career has had its ups and downs, and he is currently enjoying a long line of successful TV shows. He gained notoriety due to his recklessness and hedonistic lifestyle, particularly when he was caught in bed with a 16-year-old girl. However, he turned his life around and said, “Sobriety was the greatest gift I ever gave myself. I don’t put it on a platform. I don’t campaign about it. It’s just something that works for me. It enabled me to really connect with another human being-my wife, Sheryl-which I was never able to do before.”

  • Alcohol Abuse

    “My identity shifted when I got into recovery.”

    Eric Clapton is a legendary guitarist who drank and injected and smoked heroin. He eventually quit both in 1982 after his manager and friends intervened. He wrote this about sobriety: “My identity shifted when I got into recovery. That’s who I am now, and it actually gives me greater pleasure to have that identity than to be a musician or anything else, because it keeps me in a manageable size. When I’m down on the ground with my disease-which I’m happy to have-it gets me in tune. It gives me a spiritual anchor. Don’t ask me to explain.” He founded a recovery center in Antigua called Crossroads, which aims to help people with drug addictions.

  • Buzz Aldrinbecame famous as one of the first astronauts to walk on
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    “It’s been one of the greatest challenges that ever came along in my life; it was one of the more difficult things to do.”

    the moon. However, prior to the mission, he had been a pilot, and he was unprepared for the media storm that was about to hit him. After the Apollo 11 mission, his life became one of speaking engagements, publicity and the spotlight. His life became less structured and he found himself unused to the freedom offered by superstardom. He realized he had a problem and he went to a recovery clinic to be treated. He openly praises these organizations, saying: “I think recovery organizations are essential. I still participate in that because I enjoy the sharing that takes place and the friendship.” Having been sober for over three decades, Buzz still remembers his battle with alcohol: “It’s been one of the greatest challenges that ever came along in my life; it was one of the more difficult things to do.”