If I am bouncing back, why do I feel so low?

Many people quitting alcohol expect to bounce back with a vengeance, and then doubt their decision when it seems they feel even lower than they did as a drinker. Some kind of pointless exercise then?
Business leaders know that when profits drop, then it is time to reinvest in the company to boost productivity. This might involve investing in new technology, training, system upgrades…yawn! There’s a lot to be said however for applying the same principles to our sobriety when a ‘bounce back’ is urgently required.
For many, money and time come up as issues straight away. It’s all very well people saying pamper yourself, get to the gym, book a holiday; if only life was that simple, we’d all be on the ‘pink cloud’ permanently.
In the end it’s not so much how much money or time you have to reinvest in yourself to create the feel good factor, it’s about how you use what little there is. How money and time get used is very much to do with our individual environments and the personal investment that works for one person is not going to be any use to another.
One way of looking at it is perhaps starting from the bottom and working your way up. A sober bottoms up policy! Focusing on the small things that make you happy and doing more of them. For example, reviewing the way you have your home organised, the way you communicate with and respond to others, the amount of times you get involved with events and people around you.

Your skills and talents may well be under used.

Other people may be draining your energy, and wasting your time and even money. When did you last think about your skills and talents and try them out, for your own benefit?
Tapping into your creativity and sense of innovation can help you to figure out what will work best to create your bounce back. It doesn’t have to involve grand gestures or loads of cash. It could be as simple as having a declutter and a reorganising of your home, yard, garden, workplace…or deciding to spend more time reading and knitting (or whatever floats your boat, it might even be a boat) instead of on the phone/Facebook to that needy friend or relative…small steps. Wishing you luck with your bottoms up policy!

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5 thoughts on “If I am bouncing back, why do I feel so low?”

  1. I know exactly what you mean Binki, I have always been someone with high expectations and searching for better ways to enjoy life. Flipping exhausting I can tell you and something I need to keep recognising and flagging up when I get down which I have been recently. The last paragraph of your blog just gave me a light bulb moment……do what makes you feel good and happy. Its already within you and it always works whether a small or big and gives you a feeling of contentment and balances out life’s other worrries. Keep it simple is a saying I have to remind myself of now. Thank you removing a knot I have had in my stomach recently. Lots of love dear friend. Janey


    1. Hello dear friend and so happy to hear from you. Giving ourselves permission to be happy and do what makes us happy as people (not just as partners,colleagues,mums, dads etc) is one of the big hurdles in recovery, especially when we are so used to being in a permanent state of anxiety. It is such a relief when we try it in a tiny way and no one says,hoy what the hell do you think you’re doing with this ‘being happy’ malarkey? Love xxx


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